Lessons from the Water

What experience won’t protect you from Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I should have this all figured out by now”? Maybe you’ve been swimming for years. You’ve mastered the strokes, conquered goals, built confidence through repetition. What could you possibly have in common with someone just learning how to float? This week, a thoughtful mom joined me for a 3 day mini swim camp with her 7-year-old daughter. Sure, mom could swim further and faster—but what struck me was her willingness…

Hi there, If you’ve been curious about joining The Water’s Edge, this is a great moment to dip your toes in. Our community is growing stronger and more connected—and we’d love to have you with us! Here’s what’s happening this month inside the membership: Flow Prone Bonus Call – Tomorrow!Are you familiar with the state of presence, ease, and full engagement known as flow? In this special session we’ll review the flow cycle and explore the internal and external conditions that make the flow…

The water is fine. Periodically I peer out from under the rock where I hide, I glance at the news and see vitriol. Even the headlines seem generated to divide us. But in my backyard pool and in my adult swimming classes at Rogue X, we’re humming and floating and finding connection from our books to our toes. We’re feeling the inbuilt support of the water by bouncing ourselves like basketballs. Young and old, we’re leaning into trust. While the world pushes us to choose sides, the water asks…

Got a support system? Or just swimming solo? This week in the water, one of my little swimmers pushed off from one side of the pool, picked up a sinky, stood up, and proudly yelled out, “Mom, look!” Mom looked up from her phone, smiled, and gave him the thumbs up he was hoping for. With that simple recognition, courage bloomed—and he did it again. And again. At one point, he came up surprised, choking on water, and looked straight at me. I gently reminded him, “We’re not fish—we can’t breathe…

When the Goal Gets in the Way Last week, I wrote about trust—how the water meets us when we show up, just as we are. How learning to trust might be the most powerful thing we can do. This week, something happened in a lesson that reminded me how easily trust slips—not from fear, but from something more subtle. I was working with a 6-year-old who had just discovered he could push off from one wall, arms in streamline, eyes on the bottom, and glide all the way across the short side of the…

Come As You Are—The Water Will Meet You For kids, trust in the water often comes more naturally—or returns quickly once they’re reminded. They play. They explore. They discover that the water holds them. They’re less likely to overthink. And quicker to just feel. Adults carry more. Expectations. Self-judgment. Past experiences. The desire to do it right. But real progress in swimming—and in life—rarely comes from control.It comes from letting go. Trust doesn’t always feel like…

Learn to Listen to the Water I worked with new swimmers this week—and others I’ve been guiding for years—ranging in age from 4 to 64 (give or take). Some were just learning to hear themselves hum underwater for the first time. Others were exploring how to release tension and let the water hold them. Different ages, different goals. But a common thread runs through them all. The thing that unlocks real progress isn’t found with a kickboard or pull buoy. It runs deeper than watching the clock…

Hey there, June is here—and with it, a new theme inside The Water’s Edge: Marathon Mindset. Marathon Mindset isn’t just a set of thoughts—it’s the story we tell ourselves about what we can handle and who we can become when the goal is far off, the water gets rough, or we’re deep in the middle of the journey. It shows up when we’re tired, afraid, or unsure—and when we choose to keep going anyway. It’s the kind of mindset that helps us trust the process, lean into uncertainty, and stay open to…

One Thing at a Time Yesterday I got out of the pool and lingered in my bubble. If I resist the urge to pick up my phone and see what I missed, I can hold on to the bliss for just a few minutes longer. Then the wave comes… the meeting I’m supposed to be in, the emails I missed, the messages unanswered. The shift from clarity to chaos is swift and merciless. In the water, I know what to focus on. While it can be overwhelming, it’s a practice I’ve honed for 3 years now: choose one thing—just…

The Power of Noticing It was an exciting week of observations. One swimmer, visiting for a mini camp in the Endless Pool, started noticing the subtle position of her legs and how they contribute to the whole unit of her body – no small feat as humans are innately kicking and pulling machines in the water (leaving them exhausted and defeated). This new awareness gave her better control almost immediately. Another swimmer I coach remotely tuned into her weight shift from one side to the other…

Ready or Not, Ready Enough I didn’t feel ready. Not for the spring water temps. Not for the distance. Not for everything this swim would ask of me. But I went anyway. Because sometimes, waiting to feel “ready” is just another way of hiding. And I could feel myself trying to hide! The weather looked rough. It was Mother’s Day weekend. Despite months of planning, coordinating schedules, and arranging travel to get my crew here, when push came to shove, all I wanted to do was stay home and enjoy…

Am I trying to prove something? In my last note, I hinted at a swim that’s been tugging at me. It’s not just about finishing something I started—it’s about revisiting what it means to give myself permission. Despite being a lifelong swimmer, adapting to open water hasn’t come easily for me. I remember a time when I just wanted to get out of open water. I was terrified—of what was underneath, of what I couldn’t see, of the unknown. First, it was fear. Then it was performance. For a long time,…

You can’t hold the water. In my last post, I wrote about how swimming isn’t just about getting to the side—it’s about giving yourself permission. To slow down. To feel. To stop performing. That permission doesn’t end in the shallow end. I don’t just teach swimming. I help people rewrite their relationship with the water—and often, with themselves. And this isn’t just about beginners. Even experienced swimmers can find themselves gripping, striving, trying to get it “right.” How do you carry…

What happens when you let go? Most people think learning to swim is about getting to the side. Kicking and pulling with all your might until you can grab something solid. And yes, swimming is a lifesaving sport. We do need to know how to save ourselves. But in my experience, what really shifts things isn’t more effort. The harder I try to find each shape in the water, the more robotic I feel. When I give myself permission to let go and send my energy forward, I flow. The answer isn’t effort….

How do you get ready? There’s something powerful about the quiet work that comes before a big swim—the unseen, often uncelebrated process of getting ready. That’s our theme this month inside The Water’s Edge—a community for curious swimmers who believe the water holds lessons about themselves, their limits, and their potential. Investigating those edges requires more than fitness. It asks for presence, patience, and a plan. Preparation isn’t about proving anything—it’s the bridge between…

The Unspoken Conversation It starts quietly. A question you didn’t expect. Not from someone—but from the water. That subtle moment before you act—the breath before the plunge, the hesitation before the yes—can reveal more than we realize. Sometimes, it’s a whisper from something deeper, asking to be heard. The water offers one of life’s most honest mirrors. Not just your reflection, but your relationship with uncertainty, with trust, with yourself. What if your relationship with the water…

What changes if you stay with resistance? Lately I’ve been thinking about that moment of pause—when resistance creeps in right before something meaningful. What happens next is where it gets interesting. When you stay—not by pushing through, but by noticing what’s underneath—you start to uncover what’s really driving the resistance. And often, it’s not fear of failure. It’s fear of change. Of doing things differently. Of not being able to go back. But when you stay with it—when you meet that…

Stretching the Edges—Together Comfort and growth rarely live in the same neighborhood. Yet we keep looking for shortcuts between them—ways to expand without feeling that edge of discomfort that signals real change. Once I started noticing resistance in myself, I saw it everywhere: The colleague who says, “I could never speak in public.” The friend who insists they’re “not creative.” The neighbor who feels they’re “too old to learn something new.” And in the pool, when swimmers—beginners and…

The art of trusting your limits. After I sent yesterday’s email about my own hesitation to turn the shower to cold, a few people responded. One person shared they look forward to cold showers, and another said they’ve done them for so long that a shower feels incomplete without a cold burst at the end. Thank you for sharing—these responses made me feel part of something! And then someone else wrote about a different kind of moment. They had a swim practice scheduled—something they usually…

When your body says “nope”. I had one of those moments this week where my whole body said nope. I stood in front of the shower—my hand hovering over the faucet, knowing I should turn it to cold. I know the benefits: improved circulation, boosted mood, sharpened alertness, enhanced recovery, and built-up resilience. I’ve done it before. And yet… I didn’t want to. I started wondering: what’s actually happening in those moments when we resist something we know is good for us? Maybe you’ve felt…